First of all, the five love languages:
Physical Touch: People who know they are loved by hugs, hand holdings, a kiss, or some sort of physical touch.
Gift Giving: People who either like to receive or give creative, thoughtful gifts. For them, it really is the thought behind the gift that counts.
Quality Time: People who just enjoy spending time with the one they love. That is how they know.
Acts of Service: People who will do nice, helpful things, or feel loved when nice things are done for them
Words of Affirmation: People who express love verbally. They need to hear words of love to know they are loved.
Now, for me. I am very much a quality time person, followed closely by words of affirmation. I can just be sitting in the same room as Mike and I know he loves me. Likewise with my family; I spend time with them, more than anything else, to show and feel affection. A close second is words of affirmation: I very much like to talk about being loved.Mike is very similar. His love language is also quality time, which is very nice for us. We can just hang out together and feel very fulfilled, even if we aren't doing anything interesting. Like video games, or movies.
I started this post two days ago. I'm back to it now. Today, I felt lonely. I am starting to more keenly feel the loss of Leah as it approaches and have tried to reach out to make friends at work. Unfortunately, I am not good at making friends, at opening up, or sometimes even at holding conversations. It's probably half in my head, but I'm pretty sure I am frequently the awkward one in the group. I'm still trying, though.
Anyways, I'm running again tomorrow. I've started week 6 of Couch to 5k, so that should be fun.
4 comments:
I like this post. I sat for a few minutes thinking about what my love language was, but I came to the conclusion that I'm really all of these, except maybe the gift giving one. I love to give gifts, but I don't necessarily yearn for my own. I feel like the rest are really essential for maintaining a healthy relationship.
Good work on your running! David manipulated me into taking yet another day off last night. Today though! Today!
I love you goose. I know you're not the awkward one, especially when compared to myself. I hope you find quality new friends! I also hope we can always fulfill our common love language.
I understand where you are coming from with feeling the impending "loss" of a close friend. Knowing I am moving a thousand miles away in 5 weeks is very daunting to me. I won't know a single soul there, aside from Scott.
I too am definitely the awkward sort when it comes to making new friends, and I am nervous as can be after realizing I am going to have to create a brand new social circle all by myself! Its scary, but I have confidence that things will work themselves out... they usually do. I was scared to death to make new friends in College and somehow it miraculously happened. It will happen for you too! Just keep trying! At least we both can take comfort in the fact that we have wonderful husbands to support us along the way. :)
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